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[Tree Hugger]

Hello Seekers

No matter how many times you disappoint yourself don’t ever give up.
Giving up becomes a habit, and if you give up in the little things, how will you carry through with the big things. Never look at anyone from the outside and compare yourself. Never wish to exchange your life for theirs because you do not know with what issues they are having to deal with.
If you find yourself, with your nose pressed against the window of the candy store, staring at the person you wish you were, or the life you wish you had, look at your own reflection in that window for a moment. There looking back at you is the person you do not really know, and who is a mystery to you.
As long as you are living and breathing you have the opportunity to improve the things about yourself you dislike. Why spend time looking other places and in other faces.
Could the reason you are never satisfied with your performance in anything, because you are seeing as the world sees, superficially? Disappointment comes in many shapes and takes many forms but there is an outer measurement and an inner one.

If you use the outer measurement, and compare you against another, you will always find someone who is materially better off, more attractive, with a better job, better house, car, and the list is endless. This is they way humans see the outer self, in contrast to others, and by societies markers of success.

If one uses the inner measurement, there is no one to compare with, since you are unique, one of a kind.

We each have a judge sitting within our mind. This judge is on the bench 24/7 ready to point the finger at us. However that judge never gives us the other side of the coin. He never tells us how clever or talented or wonderfully kind or sharing we are. He never sees our fine achievements, the times we persisted and won, he only sees our mistakes.
This judge, is programmed by past concepts about us put there by authority figures; those we believed, would give us the truth about life, who we are and what our goals should be.
None of us are at present, the person, we once were, in formative years, still, the judge keeps bringing up old mistakes, rehashing them in our mind until we feel so much self condemnation we wish we could exchange lives.

Stop trying to put the template of perfection on your human frame, where it does not fit. None are perfect, and so never get discouraged with yourself, and give up. Never adopt the ‘what’s the use’ attitude.
If you had a therapist, you would want a caring considerate and patience person. If that is what you would pick in another to help you, then be that therapist yourself. Who knows you, better than you?

If that inner judge says you are not competent put a gag in his mouth. Likely if you listen carefully, the judge’s words sound suspiciously like your mother, father, pastor, teacher, sibling, grandparent, friend or other person who helped define your concepts.

Trying to live up to fantasy expectations causes deep disappointment, and a feeling of failure, and often if we examine them, the expectations belonged to other people before they came to us.
I say fantasy expectations because living by outer standards can only bring dissatisfaction.

Instead of chasing someone else’s carrot, learn inner grace and poise. Lift your own condemnation, and forgive yourself, for creating such a stern view of yourself. Show yourself patience and shed the past matrix of your mind. You can step out of that mold and find your center, your heart and be the artist who begins with a blank white canvas and paints a masterpiece. Then, he stands back and admires his creation. You can do anything you focus on, you just have to want to.

Tree

[~The Chalk Ninja~]

if that does not work
try getting blitzed on sake
and writing haiku


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[Tree Hugger]

Honorable Chalk Ninja

I prefer plum wine…..and egg rolls…

no hot mustard, thank you